Sexuality and attraction

Let’s talk about sex. Or rather, let’s talk about sexuality. Two very different things. I was at a friend’s house for dinner the other week and we (after a couple of drinks!) ended up playing a game of ‘either / or’. You know the one – two options and you have to pick one, no ‘both’, ‘neither’ or ‘pass’, you have to answer! There were three of us, all female. We had done serious options (sight or hearing, love or money) and had inevitably ended up with sex ones (including George Bush or Gordon Brown – interesting responses!). The question was posed; a beautiful woman or an ugly man?

Now, I consider myself as heterosexual, though I have certainly been attracted to and fantasised about women. I have never slept with a woman, though when I was younger I have kissed female friends. However, that was nothing to do with sex, but more to do with putting on a show and getting attention from blokes in clubs (amazing the reaction you get, silly boys!). Sex is usually based on one of two things (if you have both at the same time, then good for you!): physical attraction or attraction to the person as a whole. We’ve all done it – set eyes on someone who has made us horny just looking at them, or realized over time that the person we know and consider a friend is much more attractive than we first considered them to be – that’s attraction to a person as a whole.

But in this scenario, sex with someone you don’t know and so based purely on looks, what would you do? Aesthetics are important to us, especially with sex, when we’re operating from a very basic level. It’s certainly easier for a woman to publicly say they think another woman is beautiful (though is often nothing to do with sexual desire, more an admiration of beauty), than it is for a male to say about another male. I’d be interested to know the answer from a male perspective (though I’m fairly sure what the majority would say) – so, blokes; ugly woman or beautiful man?

Sexuality is a fluid thing. Yes, we have our general preference, though attraction (if we talk about attraction to a person as a whole) is usually more to do with the person themselves than their gender.

And our answers? Two to one for a beautiful woman. I was in the majority. Think about it, what would you answer?